today, i was asked by a friend of mine, who will remain nameless as he intends on proposing to his lovely girlfriend in the near future, whether i thought it was necessary for him to ask her father for permission. what a fabulous question! i get asked wedding questions all of the time, and i thought that this question was a wonderful start to an occasional “dear angie“ blog post. so here we go! my answer:
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the tradition and acceptable social etiquette used to be to ask the bride’s father for permission to marry his daughter. it was only proper! however in today’s world women have much more independent roles in society and my personal belief is that the custom is no longer “mandatory,” necessarily. BUT . . . i also personally believe that this tradition is a lovely, lovely gesture and a charming thing to do. not to mention a huge sign of respect for a woman’s father (or other significant male figure in her life). it is a fantastic opportunity for a future groom to further his relationship with his love’s family. it will usually “score points” with the father, and with the bride-to-be. many women, despite ”running their own shows,” would still likely appreciate her boyfriend taking that initiative and considering her family’s thoughts and feelings.
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if any of you have any questions that you would like to be included in a future “dear angie” post that could be helpful to others, please feel free to e-mail me at angie@absolutelyevents.net!!!
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